Free to start · One $39 payment per pair · No subscription
Before the next big step. Answer separately, then compare money, family, conflict and commitment.
Find out where you stand ↓
For two people building something serious.
See how it looks →One private report for both of you.
See how it looks →A private profile of your priorities. Free.
See how it looks →You may already know how you feel.
The useful part is finding out whether your partner means the same thing.
You both answer the same core questions, on your own, in 15–20 minutes. Couple Assessment keeps your answers private until you both finish, then turns them into one report. Less guessing. More talking. The kind of conversation that’s good either way.
“You agree on the shape. You differ on the number.”
Your results are organized by topic. Pair Report shows what’s shared, what’s workable, what needs a decision, and what neither of you has settled yet. No score. No verdict. Just a place to start.
Before you compare with anyone, Private Passport helps you get clear on your own priorities, expectations and boundaries. Keep it for yourself, or share a code and compare when you’re both ready.
Private answers, mutual approval, separate connections and deletion on request, all close at hand. Built to help you stay in control at every step.
Your partner gets the comparison, not a page showing every answer you chose.
A Pair Report is not created until both people finish and agree to connect.
Someone connected to you cannot see anyone else you invited or compared with.
Revoke a connection and request deletion of your account and data at any time.
Relationship science points to conflict repair, emotional patterns and personality. We turn that into a lens you can use.
How you fight and come back matters more than how you fall in love.
Under stress, your pattern shows up long before the lease.
Stable patterns in how you decide, plan and react. The stuff dating bios never measure.
About the cost of one date to unlock.
If your partner does not finish within 30 days or declines, you can use your payment once more with someone else.
It started because two people we know almost got married without ever asking each other the important questions. Not because they didn’t love each other. There was never a natural moment to bring up the money, the family, the conflict patterns, the plans that had been sitting quietly for years.
We built this for the moment before the moment. Not a personality quiz. Not a dating app. A structured, private way for two people to see where they align and where they need language.
— The BeforeVows team
No. It is a conversation tool, not therapy, counseling, legal or financial advice.
Only you. Your partner sees the comparison, never a copy of everything you selected.
No. One payment of $39 per pair unlocks the Pair Report for both of you.
Yes. Stages start at dating seriously and go through engaged and premarital.
Yes. Revoke any connection and request deletion at any time.
Payments are not refundable. If your partner does not finish within 30 days or declines, you can use your payment once more with someone else.
Yes. Print or save your Pair Report and decision sheet as PDF from inside the app.
Free to start. Private by default. BeforeVows is a conversation tool, not therapy, counseling, legal advice, financial advice or emergency support.
Sam is still answering. Your answers stay private until you both finish.
You both finished. Open it together when you are ready.
What does enough savings mean, in dollars, for each of us?
Who handles the bills, and does that still feel fair?
What would we do if one income stopped?
Give it to Sam. You compare only when you both agree.